Bridal Club Magazine
What makes a marriage work
Yes, opposites do attract, however the marriages that work the
best are with couples who have similar values, beliefs and
interests. That's not to say you should marry a carbon copy of
yourself - that would get boring and tedious very fast - (truly,
how many of us want to marry ourselves?), but having a mate that we
know will work toward the same goals and has the same values, will
go a long way in keeping your marriage intact.
Having separate interests is also a big plus. While is wonderful
to spend a lot of time together, it's the quality that counts, not
the quantity. True, there are many couples who enjoy being together
day and night - in fact; my own marriage is much like that. We love
to be and do many things together; however we also have our own
separate interests as well. Some time apart is good for the
majority of couples. It gives you new and fresh outlooks on your
lives, not to mention giving you both something to talk about
that's apart from your daily lives and interests.
Of course, it goes without saying that communication is probably
at the top of the list. Begin able to discuss dreams, goals and
what's in your heart if very important, as well as having someone
who will listen closely to what you say and having some empathy as
to how your feel. That's not to say that your partner wants to hear
constant complaints about one thing or another. Yes, we all need "a
shoulder to cry on" occasionally, just don't make a habit of
Intimacy is also a very important part of keeping a marriage alive
and happy. And intimacy doesn't mean just sex. Being close, holding
hands, relaxing in each other's arms, speaking of your hopes and
dreams of the future, helps to build a close relationship and trust
of your partner.
And don't think sex has to become boring. Spice it up by greeting
your mate wearing just a raincoat, or kidnap your partner and take
them to a hotel overnight. Plan dates and dress sexy...find ways to
add excitement to your love life. And remember, sex doesn't just
start in the bedroom. Gazing at your lover across a crowded room
with a "come hither" look or whispering in his or her ear of what
you'd like to do later can go a long way in keeping the fire
roaring in the bedroom.
Rose Smith is the owner of Wedding Themes and More, a website
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