Bridal Club Magazine
Wedding Gifts - Pointers On Gift Giving At Weddings
Someone you care about has invited you to share their
wedding day with them - and you have no idea what to buy them or
even how much to spend. We give you a few pointers to take into
consideration before taking the plunge into your purse.
Check to see if they have a gift registry first and what store or
online service they are listed with. Some registries work on a cash
voucher system, so that the couple can spend the vouchers on the
items they really need, such as large and costly household items or
even their honeymoon. An advantage that registries have is that the
couples receive gifts that are truly needed and they don't double
up on anything. Some couples may already have household items and
would like to receive cash. In some countries it is a traditional
custom to receive cash.
How much money should we spend?
Your unique situation will depend on several factors, how close
your relationship is with the Bride and Groom, the formality of the
occasion and your budget. Gift giving can be simple, you just have
to know where to draw the line. Are you low on cash, or attending a
wedding you are sure is to be quite extravagant? Most couples tend
to know the financial situation of their invites, so don't worry if
you don't empty your bank account on a gift. If you are truly
someone they want at their wedding, then they will simply be happy
that you were able to share their special day.
How much money is appropriate?
This can be quite difficult as it varies on a wedding by wedding
basis. For example, if the bride is a high school friend that you
haven't seen in 8 years, and you aren't very close to the person to
begin with, then $50 may be appropriate. However, you must also
take into account where the wedding will take place. If the
reception is in Auckland City you might consider giving a larger
amount than if you were going to a wedding in a small town. Another
thing to consider is how much you believe it costs the bride and
groom to have you there. Many etiquette experts agree that you
should give a gift that will cover your plate (and your guest's, if
you bring one).
Meaningful is the key
If you are low on cash, and are somewhat creative, think of
something that is special to you and the bride and groom. It
doesn't have to be anything large, expensive or even bought. If you
have known them for a long time try giving them something that is
meaningful. This will make the cash gift seem almost
At the end of the day you should give something you are
comfortable giving. You should not feel embarrassed by your gift.
Remember that your presence is a gift in itself.
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