All-lady tea parties are on their way out. Even though the
traditional women-only affairs are still popular, anything goes and
the groom's are joining in on the 'couples shower' parade. Coined
with a new name 'Jack and Jill' - this is a pre-wedding party for
men and women alike.
So where did the idea of a bridal shower come from
The first bridal shower is said to have taken place in The
Netherlands. A young woman had her heart set on marrying an
impoverished miller. Her father disapproved and attempted to
sabotage the marriage by refusing to hand over his daughter's
dowry. Some villagers and friends took pity on the couple and came
to their rescue by "showering" them with gifts.
Who facilitates the shower?
Traditionally the wedding party attendants, but co-workers or
friends are also good choices. If you're an etiquette junkie,
immediate family members are frowned upon as host or hostess
because it looks as if they are fishing for presents. Many feel
this "rule" is passe. Oftentimes, relatives get involved in the
planning by offering financial aid or their homes as a shower
When and where should it be held?
Somewhere after the engagement party but before the wedding day.
Couples showers can be thrown just about anywhere: a favourite
restaurant, outdoors at the park or in the living room in the host
or hostesses' home.
To theme or not to theme?
Put your heads together and come up with some neat ideas for
themes. These are sure to make the event a real hit.
The gift of giving
It's a good idea to have the bride and groom register for gifts
before shower season hits. The host or hostess is expected to
include the couple's registry information in the invitations. If
you want guests to bring gifts in keeping with a theme, make sure
there are related items on their registry so that the couple does
not get unwanted gifts.
As the couple opens their gifts, have a designated helper keep
record of which guest gave which present, so thank-you notes won't
be a nightmare.
Eating, chatting, and gift opening are the primary activities at
any shower, especially a couples one. The host or hostess may want
to consider providing background music (in keeping with the theme,
if it lends itself) and some planned activities, so the party moves
along at a nice pace. Games are great for bringing people together
and upping the laugh quotient.
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