Bridal Club Magazine
Little Boys In The Wedding Party - What Do They Do At The Wedding?
Just what are those cute little kids running around with pillows
at weddings anyhow? Traditionally a young male; they can serve one
of two purposes in wedding ceremonies - ringbearer or page. Pages
help the bride who has an extra long train, while ring bearers
bring the wedding rings (or fakes that look like the wedding rings)
to the altar. Read on for the ring bearer side of the story.
Duties of the ringbearer
The ring bearer, traditionally a small boy aged four to eight,
walks down the aisle just before the flower girl (if there is one),
carrying a pillow with two rings tied to it. Since it's not the
greatest idea to entrust gold rings to a carefree 6-year-old, the
rings are usually fakes.
Are you the trusting sort? You may want to have someone hand him
the pillow with real rings just before he begins trekking down the
aisle. If he gets hold of them too far in advance, it's more likely
he'll lose them.
Whatever you choose to have the ring bearer carry, be sure he's
told about his duties ahead of time. It's probably best to include
him in the rehearsal dinner, so the full implications of his duties
(walking down an aisle all by himself with a hundred people
watching) don't come as a big shock.
Who do we choose as ringbearer?
You'll probably want to choose a young family member. Perhaps your
first or second cousins already have children. You can also choose
a godchild or a family friend. If you don't know any young boys,
don't sweat it: Having a ring bearer is a great way to include
young family members in your wedding ceremony, but a ring bearer
isn't a necessity. In most cases, the best man will be holding the
real rings anyhow.
What does a ringbearer wear?
Although there is nothing more adorable that a little boy in a
tuxedo, that is certainly not a requirement. Ring bearers can also
wear a suit, or short pants and knee socks, which may be more
practical for the family because he can wear them again.
Where does he sit?
As far as having them stand with the wedding party at the altar,
most flower girls and ringbearers are too young to stand still
through an entire ceremony. It's probably best to have their
parents seated up near the front so after their walk, they can go
straight to sit with Mum and Dad.
Who watches them before we begin?
There are several ways to handle this delicate situation. You may
ask the maid of honour or one of the bridesmaids to hold on to him
until her big moment arrives, especially if one of them is related
to the little boy. You can also ask one of the parents to wait in
the back with him, but that means they will either miss a portion
of the ceremony or will have to walk in after it's already
The receiving line. Usually the ringbearer is not
required to stand in the receiving line. After his big debut, his
only other requirement is getting his picture taken.