Bridal Club Magazine
Women’s Guide to Getting Their Dream Diamond Engagement Ring
How can women get their dream diamond engagement ring when it is
the boyfriend making the purchase and wanting it to be a surprise?
To find the answer you need to understand your man's thought
process. After all, he is shopping for a diamond, the symbol of his
love for you.
The man shopping for an engagement diamond has three primary
1) They want to make a good investment
2) They want to make you happy
3) They fear disappointing you or worse yet, rejection
On all three points, men act out of fear of making a mistake.
Their pride and desire to surprise their girlfriend typically
prohibit them from asking the woman's advice. As men so often do,
they try to apply logic to what is a very emotional decision.
Most men attack diamond shopping the same as any other problem
they face. They research the subject, gather all the facts (often
in a spreadsheet), and then make a logical decision. They assume
you will have the same priorities they have so they focus on what
will be a good investment. They seek a high quality diamond fearing
that anything less will as somehow imply some lower level of
The man's first stop is often the jewelry store in the closest
shopping mall. They walk in the door and realize they just entered
a world foreign to them. They look at rings in the display cases
and see more zeros in the price tag than they have seen since they
bought their car. Their heart starts pounding as they realize they
have to spend thousands of dollars on a tiny little rock they know
nothing about, then give it away to someone else or worse yet, face
Now their legs are shaking so they decide they need to do more
research and do it in a friendlier environment. They head home,
turn on the computer, and start searching online for clues on how
to survive the diamond buying process. Their goal is to find a
pretty ring their girlfriend will like and have a few dollars left
in their pocket. They feel more comfortable with the discussions of
the four C's (color, clarity, carat weight and cut) where they can
match up those letter grades with their budget to find some
possible options. However, with a little knowledge comes the
sinking feeling that there is a whole lot more for them to learn in
order to protect themselves from making an expensive mistake. They
become even more determined not to make a mistake so they spend the
next weeks and months gathering ever fact and opinion they can find
on diamond buying. It is almost like trying to get a drink from a
fire hydrant. There is just too much to drink in.
It is at this stage of the shopping process men sometimes forget
the reason they started on this adventure in the first place. They
can lose sight of the fact that their primary goal is to make their
If you are a woman, by now you are probably getting the picture.
However, you are asking yourself, what should I do to help ensure
the diamond of my dreams and the proposal moment as romantic as I
Here are some suggestions that can help make your dreams come
1) Do some shopping yourself so you can tell your boyfriend what
shape of diamond you like best on your finger. Do not leave it up
to him to guess wrong.
2) If you sense this is going to be mostly a surprise gift, drop
some subtle hints about what kind of mounting (solitaire, side
stones, etc.) you want for your diamond. If you do not know, hint
you want something very simple so he does not make an expensive
3) If you have a strong preference for the type of metal in the
ring (yellow gold, white gold, platinum), find a way to tell
4) If you have the type of relationship that supports it, get
involved in the diamond buying process. There are more couples
shopping together for the engagement ring now than ever before and
the result is often higher levels of happiness and lower levels of
Many couples now shop together so the boyfriend knows what shape
of diamond the girlfriend likes, knows what style of mounting she
likes and then he takes that knowledge to buy the ring on his own
timetable and make the presentation a surprise.
The bottom line is your man is trying, to the best of his ability,
to do all the right things to make you happy. You just need to be
patient and try to appreciate the effort he is making on your
behalf. If you would like to see this diamond gift giving repeated,
then by all means tell him how proud you are of his research show
him how much you love that sparkling diamond on your finger.
Article Source: Free Wedding
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