Bridal Club Magazine
Writing Your Own Wedding Vows
No matter how traditional and formal, or unique and
unconventional a wedding may be, many brides and grooms have
started writing their own vows, with varying levels of creativity.
There are a lot of things that should be considered when deciding
between traditional vows or unique vows of your own.
There is a history in traditional vows, and something very moving
about reciting the same vows as generations of men and women before
you, promising love and commitment to one another for a lifetime.
Many faiths have their own versions of the promises a couple makes
to one another, and because they've been used for such a long time,
they have depth and meaning already built in. If you're planning to
write your own vows, you should study traditional vows and consider
what makes them so moving. Incorporating some of the aspects from
traditional vows into your own is a very good idea.
Writing your own vows allows you to be as creative as you want to
in the words you speak when promising your life to someone. They
allow you to create very personal expressions of love and
commitment. If you have a favorite love poem, story, or song, you
should write down your favorite passages. Look though religious
literature and select passages that are appropriate to your
relationship and your feelings. Consider how you really feel about
this step in your life and about the person you're pledging to
spend the rest of your life with. Once you've really considered it,
it's time to put it on paper.
You should do your best to verbalize exactly how you feel, what it
is that you're willing to promise to your loved one, and how your
commitment to them is for a lifetime. Practice saying your vows out
loud so that you can be sure it's the right length, and focused,
not just rambling all over. You may decide to write your vows
together, or write them separately. You may decide to share your
vows ahead of time, or just surprise one another. This choice is
yors, so do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.
Whether you decide to use traditional vows, write your own vows,
or use any combination of the two, your wedding vows are the
central purpose of the wedding. They deserve serious consideration,
time, and attention in order to make them a true expression of your
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