Bridal Club Magazine
When you’ve got yourself in a ‘state’- Delegate!
Getting ready for the big day can be very stressful ... and
busy! Often brides and those in the bridal party try to accomplish
all that has to be done, by themselves. Kiwis are renowned for
their 'D.I.Y.' attitudes, which have triumphed with things such as
No. 8 wire and homemade pavlovas. However, weddings are a slightly
Firstly, there is an expectation that everything will go off
without those proverbial 'hitches'; secondly most brides and grooms
are planning that the wedding day will be a day to remember and
finally, getting family and friends together is no easy feat at the
best of times, so logistically things just have to be right!
As more and more couples come through the MindWorks clinic doors
to make sure things are just right before the 'big day' a common
theme that crops up is how helpful it is to have a friend or close
family member, with whom you can communicate well, to help iron out
some of the 'pre wedding wrinkles'. As mentioned, sometimes people
are a little bit reticent at asking for help; however, you've heard
it from the shrink - "GET OVER IT". Not many of us are superhuman,
so don't be afraid of judgement by getting another person or people
involved if it makes the wedding chores easier or more
There are so many payoffs and pluses when you get your gal pal
or friend involved:
• Friends are often more objective and therefore less likely to
make emotionally charged decisions.
Friends will not get upset by minor glitches and hitches, and
can deal pragmatically with issues that arise.
• Friends are a great sounding board: they know you, but are
removed enough to give an honest opinion.
• Friends can be relied upon to make time for rest and a little
'R and R'. The odd coffee or half day spa might be 'JUST' what the
wedding planner ordered.
• You can buy yourself a little time by dealing with the more
important issues and by letting your friend sweat the smaller
So all in all, there are many benefits for calling upon a
carefully chosen 'other' to help out with some of those tasks that
make weddings a little mundane, and often stressful!
The old adage 'a problem halved is a problem shared' comes
quickly to mind, and is definitely an outcome of 'delegation'. In
addition to the obvious support that this kind of strategy
provides, this is a great way to bond or renew those bonds with a
significant friend before you embark upon another new and unique
journey in your life!
♥ This article was kindly supplied by
Wedding New Zealand's Premier Wedding