Bridal Club Magazine
Pre-Wedding Blues
The months before the wedding occurs can be a time of strain and
stress! In the first instance, there is so much preparation to be
done, so many people to keep happy and so much money to be spent.
Needless to say, there are often brides and grooms who arrive at
the altar a little leaner, but not from working out.... from
stressing out!
The most common concern for couples waiting for their big day is
trying to keep the relatives at bay. When the wedding is in the
planning phase, seemingly everyone has an agenda. Brothers and
sisters, aunts and uncles may all surprise you by coming out of the
woodwork, making demands that may be extremely hard to fulfil.
Additionally, there may be animosities between family members that
make seating plans and other arrangements difficult. Whilst no-one
would want to predict difficulty, there are some 'rules of
engagement' that make living through the pre-wedding days easier to
handle:
FIVE TIPS TO BEAT THE PRE-WEDDING BLUES
1. Decide from the outset that your wedding is for you! Let that
mindset guide most of your wedding choices, albeit with a degree of
flexibility.
2. Be organised! Do not leave everything to the last minute. The
closer you get to the 'Big Day', the less energy and patience you
will have!
3. Try not to VENT any concerns or worries on your partner. If you
feel tension building in the relationship, seek out the advice of a
professional to calm things down.
4. Beware advice from close to home! Family and friends should be
supportive but not overwhelming with their input. Do not relinquish
control to other people, but
delegate wisely.
5. Look after yourself. Remember to take time out to rejuvenate
yourself and your relationship. No-one wants a divorce BEFORE the
wedding!
There are bound to be jitters as you approach one of the most
monumental moments of your life. However the path may not be
peppered with pitfalls if you take a few good, deep breaths and put
an organised, cohesive plan in place. A plan allows you to focus on
what is important for you and your partner when there may be
pressure from other members of the family or friends. A plan also
allows you to have clarity in terms of decision-making; therefore
you don't sweat the small stuff ... or the big stuff, for that
matter!
Pre-wedding blues are often a normal part of the marriage process.
The important thing is not to let the feelings of strain and stress
dominate the lead-up to your big day, and further, flow over to the
ceremony. Take time for yourself and your
relationship on a regular basis, as you move towards your
impending nuptials. Try not to fall into the trap of allowing your
focus to slip from the excitement and happiness of your wedding day
and fix on the mindlessness of squabbling relatives, interfering
friends and over-zealous others. This will be your special day,
take ownership of it and ... ENJOY!
Article written by: Sara Chatwin
♥ This article was kindly supplied by
My Wedding New
Zealand's Premier Wedding Magazine