Bridal Club Magazine
75 Questions To Ask Before Getting Married
If you and your partner have decided to get married then you may
think that you already know each other inside and out; but this is
often not the case. Even for those couples who have been
together for years before they decide to walk down the aisle there
may still be issues that you didn't discuss.
Your marriage being successful in the long term could depend on the
issues that you haven't talked about so even though you are busy
making your wedding plans and thinking about your future together,
it is crucial that you set aside some time before you actually get
married and ask yourself and your partner these questions.
1. If we have children, will one of us stay at home to look after
2. Are we able to discuss money issues?
3. Are we able to talk to each other about sex and any problems we
4. Are we ambitious?
5. Are we getting married for the right reasons? If it is
due to pregnancy or just wanting to leave the family home then it
should be discussed further.
6. Are we having problems now? If so, should we sort them
before getting married?
7. Are we planning to buy our own home?
8. Are we starting our marriage in debt and if so, how can we get
out of it?
9. Are you a parent already?
10. Are you happy with our sex life?
11. Are you religious? If you are, does that mean I should
12. As a couple, what do we want from our life?
13. Can you spend the rest of your life with me?
14. Can you tell me what you like and don't like in the
15. Did you grow up in a loving family environment?
16. Did you have a happy childhood?
17. Do we both know where our important documentation is?
18. Do we have anything in common?
19. Do we have mutual respect for each other?
20. Do you drink to excess?
21. Do you feel loved?
22. Do you get jealous and do you think I am a jealous
23. Do you have a criminal record that you haven't told me
24. Do you have a forgiving nature?
25. Do you have any issues with trust or insecurities?
26. Do you have any parenting strategies?
27. Do you let money fall through a hole in your pocket or do you
28. Do you spend too much time at your work?
29. During our free time, what do you see us doing?
30. Have you been married before?
31. Have you ever been violent or hit a partner?
32. How do you behave if you are being threatened?
33. How often do you feel the need to be alone?
34. How often will we go on holiday?
35. How often will we see our families?
36. How will we achieve quality time together?
37. How will we resolve conflicts, not just with each other but
outside the home?
38. If our parents are still together, what do you like about
39. If we can't have children would you consider adoption?
40. If you get a day off, will you want to spend it with me or
41. Is it important that we share every detail about our mental
and physical histories?
42. Is there anything that you are not prepared to give up?
43. Is there anything you dislike about me?
44. Should the situation come up, are you willing to move abroad
for my career?
45. Should we have a joint account?
46. Should we have a television in our bedroom?
47. Should we have our own hobbies or do everything
48. We are individuals; will this create any problems in our
49. What about our families do you like?
50. ask more questionsWhat are your bad habits?
51. What attracted you to me the first time we met?
52. What do you dislike about your family and mine?
53. What is my most attractive feature?
54. What method of birth control do you use?
55. Where will we be and what will we be doing in forty
56. Who will be the accountant and sort out all the household
57. Who will do the shopping, both of us?
58. Will we at some point have children together? If so, how
59. Will we budget for the shopping?
60. Will we continue to have date nights?
61. Will we have enough in common in the future to have something
to talk about?
62. Will we listen to each other?
63. Will we make important decisions together?
64. Will we sit down at the table together and eat?
65. Will we still see our friends?
66. Will you be bringing any of your family values into our
67. Will you be faithful?
68. Will you help out around the house, not just the hoovering but
also cleaning the toilet?
69. Will you love me when I'm old and wrinkly?
70. Will you prefer to do overtime rather than spend time with
71. Will you share things with me?
72. Will you stand up for me if one of your family members upsets
73. Will you want me to change in any way once we are
74. Will your family want to spend every holiday with us?
75. Would it bother you if I went out with my friends every once
in a while?
During a relationship it can be difficult to always agree and at
some stage you will disagree or have a rough patch. This is
normal when you get two individuals together but you are a couple
and should be able to work out any differences you might have as
long as you are respectful to each other and considerate of each
It is not vital for you to spend every waking hour in each others
pockets; you both need your own space and your own interests and
still make time to share things together.
Whether the questions you have are petty, such as if your partner
is willing to replace the toilet roll in the bathroom when it runs
out or a more serious question, like do you want want children, the
questions should be asked. If you are both willing to work on
your communication skills and share intimately with each other then
your future together will most definitely be a bright one!
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