Bridal Club Magazine
Avoid These 5 Don'ts After Getting Engaged
The big moment finally came and you're in a newly-engaged bliss
bubble, admiring the look and feel of a brand-new sparkler on your
hand and bouncing off the walls with excitement. It's time to
celebrate, but not too fast-avoid these common (and costly)
mistakes from acting in the moment.
1. DON'T start inviting everyone to your
Once you do, you can't un-invite them, and you have no idea what
your wedding plans are yet, and how much they will cost. You also
don't know how many people will be on your groom's side of the
guest list. Hold off until your wedding picture and budget start to
take shape and it's time for your save-the-dates. You'll thank us
2. DON'T tell your bridal party you'll pay for all of
This is a huge mistake made by brides and grooms who have the
best intentions but no real way to know how their wedding expenses
are going to add up. If, say, a bridesmaid agrees to be in your
bridal party because you told her you'd pay for her dress, shoes,
hair, makeup, travel and lodging, but then you later say you can't
swing those things, she's going to be really upset and angry.
3. DON'T tell parents they can help plan whatever they
Your engagement euphoria may blind you to the fact that parents
can turn into steamrollers (e.g. inviting all of their friends,
pressuring you to marry in the church where they married). It's far
wiser to hold off on promises and talk with your groom about what
your top priorities are as a couple. Then, you can both decide
which tasks can be delegated to the 'rents.
4. DON'T promise everything to your people
Imagine how sad your groom and his relatives would be if you
assigned "the good stuff" to all of your family members and
friends, leaving his side to pick through whichever tasks are left.
This doesn't necessarily imply that you are trying to shun his
family-it's just easy to get caught up in the excitement of wedding
Instead, be sure to ask your groom what his mom, dad and
siblings would like to join in on, and you'll set the stage for a
close, loving relationship with the in-laws because you valued them
enough to invite them into your planning circle.
5. DON'T fall in love with the first dress you
Yes, we all know brides who bought the first dress they tried
on, but this isn't a task to rush through. Give yourself the
opportunity to have magical dress-shopping experiences with your
mom or MOH. You can certainly keep that first dress you saw in the
running, but there's no need to mark this task "complete" on your
checklist before you've even had a chance to announce your
engagement to loved ones.